In the first date, you really don’t know the person until you’ve met in person. There are a lot of do’s and don’ts on the first date, but I’ve narrowed it down to the best of the best. These are some simple first date tips will help you get a great handle on how to handle things.
Seriously, don’t be late. This is a big one. It’s safe to say, that the first date is you at your best. Being on time goes for girls too. It could send the message that you’re flighty and disorganized.
It’s not about getting someone to think you’re good enough for them. It’s about finding someone you can stand to spend a ridiculous amount of time with. It’s about finding the puzzle piece you fit with.
Some people tend to talk a lot or even talk faster when they are nervous or excited. If this is you, just try to take notice and pace yourself a bit. Even if the person really likes you, it might make them think you’re a little too intense if they can’t squeeze a word in edge-wise.
Stop worrying about potential paramours rejecting you for your out look whatever. People who simply are “not the right fit” exist. The sooner you weed them out of your life, the happier you’ll be.
If you don’t like animals or hate sushis then just say so. Don’t try to be who you think the other person wants you to be. Everyone has a few skeletons in their closet, so don’t be ashamed of yours. You don’t want to necessarily spill your guts on the first date, but if you’re divorced with 5 kids just are honest about it. Maybe that’s what they’re looking for. For any relationship to workout, it needs to be based on honesty.
Dating and meeting new people is supposed to be fun. It’s important to keep things in perspective. Even if you really connected on the phone or online, that doesn’t necessarily mean the magic will still be there once you meet in person. They (and or you) could go from stud to dud really fast. So by not having high (or any) expectations, you can be sure that you won’t be too disappointed.
Just remember there are a lot of other people out there, even if this one doesn’t work out. And going on dates is really good practice for when you do meet someone you really like. Just think of it as a practice round for the real thing.
Remember that a first date is not an audition for marriage. It’s just a tryout for a second date. No one ever fell in love while analyzing every detail of their momentous first meeting.